Feminism Survey, Part 1

•July 7, 2009 • 3 Comments

The survey is still open, if you haven’t filled it out yet. I’ll update the results in this post if they change.

As of right now, 27 people completed the survey. Of those 27 people, 25 (93%) identify as feminists, while 2 people are unsure.

7 people (28%) said their definition of feminism matched the 1895 definition: “Advocacy for the rights of women.” 6 other people chose Adrienne Rich’s definition, which was “Recognition of the inadequacy for us, the distortion of male-created ideologies, and that we proceed to think, and act, out of that recognition.” 3 people said the 1863 definition “Advocacy of or enthusiasm for the rights, achievements, etc. of women” matched their definition. 11 people selected “other”, but of these 9 people, 3 said “feminism is the radical notion that women are people”, the bumper sticker of which none of us seem to know the origin. 1 person said “the idea that gender/sex is pretty much irrelevant in most aspects” which I kind of like, and another person wrote similarly “feminism as I see it is a way of crossing the borderlands of gender through peaceful means.” Still another person wrote in: “Feminism is an honoring and respecting of the rights and abilities of women in all their aspects and ages, and therefore, of people.” Another 2 people equated feminism with equality, and 2 people said “all of the above.” One person wrote in “women being respected as human beings, who can solve problems and participate in everything-culture, art, literature, politics, trade-unionism-a liberation that means our opinion is respected at home and outside the home.”

13 out of 27 people (48%) said poverty and economic issues were the biggest issues facing women today. 2 people said restrictions on our sexual freedom, 2 said violence, while 1 only person each chose racism and 1 person said objectification in the media. 9 people marked “other” and of these 4 people essentially chose “all of the above.” 1 person wrote in “violence by the state”, another person wrote “hidden prejudice”, and someone else wrote in “dehumanization by culture, society, men and self.”

In terms of feminist writers, 7 out of 27 people (30%) chose bell hooks to best represent their philosophy. Only 1 person each chose Betty Friedan, Audre Lorde, Susie Bright, Susan Faludi, and Gloria Steinem. Four people offered five people I hadn’t included as choices:The French feminist Luce Irigaray, Alice Walker, Emma Goldman, Marge Piercy, and Adrienne Rich. One person said their mother, another listed a bunch of people I’ve never heard of and essentially said they admire “ordinary” people over theorists. Four people said they didn’t read enough feminist theory to know.

As for the final question, I am going to post people’s thoughts on feminism in their own words in a separate post, because I got some really cool responses, and think they deserve that attention.

Write, write, write

•July 2, 2009 • 4 Comments

Reply to this post using words, and I’ll give you 5 words that remind me of you. Then post to your own blog with your meditations on those words, inviting others to ask you for words.

heliopsis gave me some words. Here are my thoughts:

Compassion. We need more of this in the world, don’t we? It’s not just from the intolerant right wing who wants to take away my rights and limit what I can do with my body, or the intolerant fundamentalist Muslims who want to restrict what women can do. I’m just as intolerent of them as they are of me. I recently purchased a copy of Patricia Smith’s poetry, and her poem “Skinhead” is possibly the most mind blowing poem ever written. If an African-American woman can evoke empathy for a white supremacist, surely there is hope for the rest of us.

Social consciousness. Social consciousness means caring what happens to the world, and to the people living in it. It’s really that simple. It isn’t about political party, religious background, or the lack thereof. It’s a code of morality that transcends G-d and politics, although some people get there via G-d or politics. But if you use your G-d or your politics as a bludgeon, you have eviscerated the social consciousness you sought in the first place.

Writing. Writing is what I do. I don’t know how to not do it. I don’t know how good I am at it, or how good I a can be, but I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t do it. I have been making up stories since I was 6 years old. I think in metaphors, without even trying. It is my blood, the air I breathe.

Listening. I do a lot of that in my professional life. I could do better at it in my personal life. Active listening requires energy and attention, and sometimes I use up my store in my eight hours or so at work. Which kind of sucks if you’re married to me.

Lesbian. My first reaction to this word was, ugh. That’s not me. I have always had a strong aversion to this word, “dyke” would have evoked a more positive emotional reaction from me. Lesbians are old and dress poorly, lesbians are academic and boring and not interested in sex and pushing limits and changing the status quo. But also, I’m not a lesbian. I am, and always have been, bisexual. Of course, the longer I remain in a monogamous marriage to a woman, the more the rest of the world sees me as a lesbian. But, ugh. That’s not me.

Feminism

•June 29, 2009 • Leave a Comment

Are you a feminist? Feminism went from being a revolutionary philosophy to a bad word to a concept that no one ever talks about anymore. Is that just because I haven’t been in academic circles and that’s the only place where I hear people talking about feminism? Are we in a post-feminist world?

It’s pretty clear sexism hasn’t gone away, when Chris Brown assaults his girlfriend and a majority of teenagers think this is OK, that she must have done something to deserve it.

So if feminism is still necessary, what is your definition of feminism? Who best represents what feminism means to you these days?

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Survey, 5 years later

•June 26, 2009 • Leave a Comment

I did this meme in 2004. Thought I’d do it again and see how things are different. Or not.

The \\
Last Cigarette: 1996
Last Alcoholic Drink: Two and a half weeks ago
Last Car Ride: Yesterday afternoon
Last Kiss: This morning
Last Good Cry: A few days ago
Last Library Book: Etty Hillesum: The Letters and Diaries, Complete and Unabridged
Last book bought: An Interrupted Life: An Interrupted Life: The Diaries 1941-1943 and Letters from Westerbork
Last Book Read: Started or finished?
Last Movie Seen in Theatres: Blessed is the Match: The Life and Death of Hannah Senesh
Last Movie Rented: Happy Go Lucky and Anothor Gay Sequel. Both were disappointing.
Last Cuss Word Uttered: Probably fuck
Last Beverage Drank: Fresca
Last Food Consumed: Pepper & egg sub sandwich
Last Crush: SuAnn, the manager at Cafenation
Last Phone Call: A few days ago
Last TV Show Watched: On TV? No idea. Via iTunes? The Daily Show
Last Time Showered: This morning
Last Shoes Worn: Right now
Last CD Played: Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince, Disc 9
Last Item Bought: Star Wars Episodes IV-VI on DVD, The Opposite of Sex on DVD
Last Download: The Essential Michael Jackson
Last Annoyance: The computer server at work
Last Disappointment: Not being pregnant
Last Soda Drank: Yesterday, diet Pepsi
Last Thing Written: Two days ago, a short blog post
Last Key Used: “Evolve medical records software”
Last Words Spoken: “I’m going to go to the bathroom”
Last Sleep: Last night
Last Ice Cream Eaten: Dove mini chocolate ice cream bars, a few days ago
Last Chair Sat In: At my desk
Last Webpage Visited: Google

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10,000 hits

•June 24, 2009 • Leave a Comment

And that’s just since switching over to WordPress about 6 months ago. Wow. Particularly interesting since the comments have slowed down. A lot of people seem to be finding this blog by keyword searches – employment, Obama, anything related to sex…it’s a little microcosm of what’s on the minds of Americans today.

In response to the the most recent This American Life

•June 16, 2009 • 1 Comment

What It Means To Be A Parent

G-d willing, we will be
a family without a father.
We have a donor
and he is a good man
a decent man
But he is not going to be
a “father” except
in the strictest
biological sense.
So when I hear people
talking about their shock
to learn that their father
is not the same man
who supplied the semen
to create them
it kind of enrages me.
We bestow titles too easily
in this society.
A father is not created
during a night of passion
or by a ripped condom.
A parent – regardless of gender -
is cultivated,
raised, marinated
over years
of dirty diapers, skinned
knees, broken hearts,
and small successes.
What that tiny slab of tissue
on the slide under the microscope says
is not binding
not real
not you.

My most popular photos

•June 15, 2009 • Leave a Comment

Inspired by zoe_trope’s recent blog post, these are my most popular photos on Flickr. They are definitely an odd sort of collection.

Babs
This one is from a B&B in Newport, RI. We stayed there on my birthday in 2005.

Butterflies
This one is of butterflies in Phoenix, AZ. It was taken in 2005.

Striped socks and Pink Panties
This one is in our apartment in Cambridge. With 342 views, it has been seen by more people on the internet than any other photo of mine. Y’all are a bunch of pervs out there!

Divine's grave
This one is of Divine’s grave just outside Baltimore, Maryland. We went there for my birthday in 2008.

Provincetown cat
This one is of a sleeping cat in Provincetown, MA in 2006.

Two of the five were taken on birthday trips. Four out of five were taken on trips away from home. What does all this mean? Perhaps nothing. Or maybe just that I take more photos, or more interesting photos, when I’m away from home.

The New Medicine

•June 4, 2009 • Leave a Comment

The New Medicine
For Dr. Atul Gawande

“All the incentives are
to go this way,”
my spouse’s surgeon espouses on NPR.
Six months ago
he cut open her neck
and removed a small cancer
that had started growing.
Her former boss had seen
the same cancer
strangle her vocal cords,
had become radioactive
in order to kill the cancer.
Obviously
you want the cancer
killed. Taken out, like
an extra on The Sopranos
or a political dissident
in the civil rights era.
But you want to believe
that taking out the cancer
radiating the hell of it
is the only option,
not just the option
best designed
to make money for the hospital
the insurance company
the doctors. You trust
your doctor
you have to – he’s the one
who wheels away
your beloved
on a gurney
and appears three hours later
in the waiting room
with an update.
You don’t want to believe
his motivation
is money.
But every incentive
in this system
this country
is for it to go this way.

Charlie Crist is gay, and NPR suddenly becomes anti-gay

•May 28, 2009 • 1 Comment

Michelangelo Signorile makes a pretty good case about why NPR’s decision to censor a movie review of the movie Outrage demonstrates homophobia on their part. He writes:

Now NPR, haughtily defending its supposed loyalty to “privacy,” has censored a review about Outrage that was already written. The writer, Nathan Lee, took his name off the review in protest, and a note was added at the end. He later posted a comment to the column to clear up any confusion among readers and that comment was removed.

This is the same idiotic behavior we’ve seen coming from many in the media for 20 years on this issue. It’s encouraging that some news outlets have moved on it — the LA Times, Philly Inquirer and others reported on those discussed in the film — but it’s pathetic that some just can’t seem to break out of their rigid and ultimately biased thinking.

By not discussing the names of those in the film, NPR is most certainly passing judgment on homosexuality, on the filmmaker and on the public figures involved — deeming that, if they have secret gay lives, it is the most horrible thing imaginable. They are also deciding to suppress legitimate news because of that distaste and bias.

Just goes to show you, even the most unbiased, even-handed news source you can find in this country has a few biases that creep out occasionally.

I am looking forward to this movie, but cant find it listed anywhere in Boston yet. I think there should be more outing. Fuck this shit. I wouldn’t be surprised if 90% of the people trying to take away civil marriage rights are closet cases. Why else would they care so much?

What I do regularly

•May 26, 2009 • Leave a Comment

As listed on Livestrong.com, where I’ve been tracking my calories and my daily exercise:

Bicycling – under 10 mph (leisure)
Driving – light vehicle (e.g., car, pick-up)
Other (Manual)
Reading – reclining
Sexual Activity – moderate
Sit-ups – vigorous
Stair climbing
Strolling (walking under 2 mph)
Walk: 2 mph (30 min/mi)
Walk: 4 mph (15 min/mi)

I think that’s actually a pretty good summary of my life.